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HOW TO NOT BE SLUT-SHAMED IN NIGERIA

She confronts a fellow driver on his bad driving. First insult? Prostitute.

She comes back home from work in the late hours of the evening. What do the neighborhood men think? Ashawo.

She wears makeup to church? Olosho.

As soon as the fragile egos of some are even the slightest bit threatened by a woman, the slut-shaming begins. Men (and women) in Nigeria throw these words around like they mean nothing.

If there was ever a manual on toxic masculinity, it would contain a list of retaliatory measures to implement when there is a remote threat to the dear ol’ ego. On the top of that list would probably be “call her a slut”. Yes, refer to the ‘offending’ woman as a member of a profession who, by their mode of operation, are at the mercy of the man. Yes, reinforce your manhood at the expense of her dignity.

After a good amount of research, I have concluded on the best way to avoid being indiscriminately labelled a lady of the night in Nigeria.

Don’t exist.

Because you don’t have to do anything in Nigeria for some weird man to yell “ashawo!” in your direction. The only requirement for being called a slut in Nigeria is being a Nigerian woman. Even in death, when the lives of women are ended prematurely, where there should at least be respect for the souls lost, some man who is meant to ensure that your murderer is brought to books will be more concerned about implying you were a prostitute.

The only way to not be slut shamed in this country is to not exist at all.

By Ada & Her Tune.

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